Good attitude It’s a process, “He’s you're she said. not gone yet, but in the middle of this surreal atmosphere, go- ing through phases when yow’re not really focused, or processing, you’re not connecting. It’s like sitting at a stoplight and not noticing the light has changed. | “When he actually dies, I have a feeling it’s going to be like that all over again.” She is amazed but not surprised at her husband’s attitude. “Tom uses everything as | on } } hee . a learning experience, as an opportunity for growth. So this is his latest.” In lieu of a funeral, he has chosen cremation and is not writing his own obituary. Regardless of money, - power, status or other world- ly heights, he advises, “In the end you’re just a lonely person getting ready to go and meet your maker. “That is what I hope people will get out of this. You go on and meet what’s next with dignity. “I want them to see that. I want them to see that life happens, sometimes. while we’re sitting around planning for it. Life’s got its own plan, and it wasn’t exactly my plan and I’ve got to make the best of it.” Many fronts He’s process found the extends grieving to many fronts, including “repositioning the clients, reassuring the employees, then there’s. the kids and the grandkids.” All the kids recently flew in for a family photo, including siblings from England -and California. : The New Horizons client base is up to 1,500 a year, some for as long as five to eight years, plus a dozen or more employees. A Tennessee native, Beasley came to Ogden while in military service. After attending Weber State University and Utah State University, he ended up with a master’s degree in child and family relations by 1972 from Penn State University, long departed from original plans to teach kindergarten. Two weeks ago, Beasley met with all of Ogden’s 2nd District judges to thank them for their support over the years as he fielded courtordered counseling cases. And he told them goodbye. Tom and Jennifer finally incorporated into private practice in 1996 as New Horizons, then opening a Layton office three years ago. By February they had started a ‘