BE FRIENDLY, BE MODEST, BE CONSIDERATE, BE A GOOD LISTENER AND YOU WILL HAVE MANY FRIENDS A young girl who desires that everyone should hang out the welcome sign at her approach, and every face brighten at her coming, asks me to tell her the secret of popularity. I think the answer to that riddle is not hard to guess, but the solution is so simple that most people overlook it. Popularity mainly consists in being easy to get along with, and that goes for everyone with whom one is brought in contact from the cradle to the grave parents, husbands and wives, children. The world is so full of bumptious people, of cranky people, of people whose dispositions are all angles that we have to gumshoe around, that when we meet those who are easy to get along with we clasp them to our breasts with loud cries of joy, and can never get enough of their soothing society. Who are parents white haired children? The good natured ones who think that father and mother know best and never raise ructions in the family circle. Who are the favorite brothers and sisters? Those whose personalities harmonize and who dwell together in peace. Who are the friends we like best? Those with whom we do not always have to be on our P's and Q's. Who are the strangers we take to at sight? Those who rub our fur the right way. Who are the husbands and wives whose mates put up with intemperance and philandering and poor housekeeping and a thousand faults? It is those who are easy going and good natured and pleasant to live with. The next element of popularity is adaptability. Undoubtedly the granite characters that never swerve an inch and that nothing can bend from their upright positions are objects of awe and wonder, but nobody wants one of them for a parlor ornament. That is why some of the best people in the world are the most lonesome. They simply don't fit into our lives. The people we like are those who can slip into any crowd and be one of them; who can chum up equally well with Julie OGrady or the colonels lady; and who can apparently enjoy a hot dog supper as much as they would a state banquet. Snobby people, hard to please people, wet blanket people are never popular. The next element of popularity is friendliness. You have to like people to have them like you. You never saw a cold, reticent, stand offish person who was popular. We all shy off from them and leave them alone in their frigidaires, but we just naturally warm up to those who give us a hearty handclasp, who listen sympathetically to our tales of woe and who manifest a genuine interest in our affairs. Asking Mrs. Jones how little Johnnies cough is and inquiring of Mr. Smith how his golf game is progressing will get you farther than the most brilliant line of intellectual conversation. The next element in popularity is modesty. Dont be a self appointed oracle. Dont grab the highest seat. Dont put your fingers in other peoples pies. Dont try to run the show. If you have talent and executive ability, people will find it out, and they will not be a lot more impressed by it if you let them discover it themselves than they will be if you try to force it down their throats. There is nothing truer than that the humble shall be exalted, if they deserve it. Everyone loathes a braggart, but a man or woman who possesses beauty or talent without conceit is press agented by all who know them. The next element in popularity is consideration of others. It is practicing the amenities of life. Making yourself agreeable to strangers. Being courteous and considerate with everyone with whom you deal. Saying pleasant things to people and about people instead of stabbing them to the heart with cruel witticisms. It is taking the trouble to wire a message of sympathy to those in trouble, or write a note of congratulation to those to whom some good fortune has come. It is going to see lonely people, and jollying old people, and making the world generally a brighter place because you live in it. Still another element in popularity is learning to talk less and listen more. It is a fine art to find out when to use the tongue and when to lend the ears. Either one may make you a bore and a pest in society. No one wants a dummy around, neither does one yearn for a monologist. So the best that the seeker for popularity can do is to try out the party of the other part and if he or she has no conversation, to talk, but if the aforesaid party of the other part is a flowing stream of words, just to turn on the tap. No people are considered such brilliant conversationalists as those who let others do all the talking. These are simple rules for attaining popularity, but they will all work. Try them. DOROTHY DIX. Jane Addams Successor Unknown Despite Service The prettiest girl in Hull House when she took up residence there nearly 40 years ago, Mrs. Adena Miller Rich, now director of the famous Chicago settlement. Is shown surrounded by children during a reading hour at Hull House.