’ ))p:. Smith ciaims that hyperactivi- “Ween also be treated with proper He said that large amounts of arin the blood result in an overduction of insulin. The insulin mieracts the sugar, reducing the wd sugar to below normal levels. Wx that occurs the brain is deprivjof necessary nourishment. §nith said that hyperactive dren are unable to disregard Wyrections and have very short atniin spans. “It's incredible what re doing to these kids,” he said, Wolining that a child's brain needs re times the energy of an adult -si most of them are not even getWz 2 good breakfast." Wo teacher should be required to Pech a kid who didn’t bring his Wain to school,” Smith smiled jing that if children have cold zeal for breakfast, by the time get to school their blood sugar el has fallen to a point where it somes very difficult for them to mith said that doctors are not ate childre ained to use nutrition as the r steno? to medical or psychological nildrep mules. but instead turn to drugs see treatment. en wit nutrition is the best anding He said good surance that children will be able “ Read need# i their best. “Nutrition could be = wonder drug of the 80's,” Smith rou pute “Home is where we realize most -and sometimes least!” Mrs. Thayne said. “Even though there are some things I can't control, like my circumstances, I like to think I can control my responses to those cir- cumstances. And maybe in that home, as our children come and go, I can control what we are to each other a little bit.” "Our challenge is to give our children a feeling for having had a home; having a chance to come home; being part of something bigger than themselves. "But whether they eventually live with a whole lot of people or by themselves, I hope they'll never be homeless. I hope they'll be able to find a place that says come here, I ned. t PH . Be 4 _ ‘Home is where d tha 1 whe WE realize most & least” — me Jeas, Bey : mma Lou Warner Thayne, Salt Lake City poet and _ ae | Se bel astructor at University of Utah, + Of 8G \ked about what it takes to make a king if a chi’ OF ab ome. she said that on a recent trip to urope her 24-year-old daughter ixid she was “home sick". “began thinking what would it be jbe homeless -- not to have gmeplace to be home sick for. at makes that in our lives?" she yestioned. What does it take to have a house be a sort of place that makes us “Maybe the best way to do it is to find home within themselves. To know that that is the real home, that is the thing we carry, like coins in a pocket, that says wherever I am I'm safe, I'm okay because I know who I am--and that, I firmly believe, is my real home." aluing a Family Process" was the topic of Dr. Margaret Edward Arcus of the University of British Columbia. ‘ V in Psychology Today which indicated . that many of the respondents told little white lies and cheated on exams, expense accounts and income taxes, took home office supplies and even deceived their best friend about important things. "Some felt guilty, others didn't. In this survey it was very clear that many people were violating their very own standards of behavior." she said. Dr. Arcus explained that families are not only the first but also one of the most important agents for value development and value socialization of its members. And although farnilies carry that responsibility for value socialization, she thinks there are very few precise guidelines to carry out this task. “Particularly this is true ata time now when we have very rapid social change,” she continued. happy with longing to be there?” )) She mentioned that everyone of us | © €MS an at Deeds a place where we feel loved ind we all need somewhere to put Myr roots. “How do we do it so there will be Children learn by modeling-right or wrong tafety, something to cling to, udingl something to bubble about -1 Your gmething to come home to?" “Tread in one place that between d wetl” hours of four and nine in most “Yomes, 80 percent of the exchange snegative,” she continued. ed practice. One ought to do a par- ticular thing the way it has always been done before or because most people do it that way, she said. “Morality and ethics are not concerned with what customs or laws or edicts are -- but with what they ought to be,” she concluded. outward centered, concerned about the home, family, etc., before they have resolved the self centered issues encountered in the late teens and early 20's. Women now have more freedoms and more problems... She said that values must be learned, where the values are dealing with ethics or morality. Children learn their conduct by modeling and identification -- right or wrong. is inevitable in a loving relationship that you will hurt and be hurt,” said Mrs. L'Abate in the “Intimacy” workshop conductec ducted jointly by her and her husband, Dr. Luciano L’Abate, director of the Family Psychology Training Program at Georgia State University and supervisor of the American Assn. of Marriage and Family | come home." She quoted a recent study printed ee a child world completely different from today's world. “When the woman gets 35 to 45 years old she feels like she has been building a house of cards and it all falls down in a mid-life crisis,” Gershenfeld said. She said most of the problem lies in faulty perceptions of adult development. Women try to become When asked what one ought to do, some people may refer to whatever is customary or establish- recognized authority n families to address the Families Alive Conference was Dr. Matti Kibrick Gershenfeld, who is on the faculty of both Temple and Ax Penn State Universities. She is author of seven books, is the president of her own consulting firm, a licensed psychologist and cofounder and president of the Couples Learning Center in Philadelphia. For the past several years she has been involved in research dealing with women and depression of the 35-45 year old syndrome. Dr. Gershenfeld said that because of the quick change in our culture over the past few years, women are often being raised in one culture and living in another. She said that the majority of women are employed full-time, and that as womens' roles change, men also go through a transition, resulting in a general ambiguity about how the two sexes relate in a marital setting. Claiming that these changing roles have had a dramatic effect on the family and the increasing divorce rate, she quoted statistics which show that 40 percent of current divorces are among couples who have been married over 15 years. Dr. Gershenfeld continued that women are being provided with more job opportunities and freedom, but they are also suffering from a 500 percent increase in alcoholism; try suicide eight times more often than men; smoke more; and are in therapy more often than ever before. "Eighty percent of women complain of depression," she said. "Valium has superseded aspirin as the most-used drug in America." She said the problem is that women don't know how to use their new found freedoms. They made their decisions on what their lives will be, Dr. Gershenfeld said, but they made those decisions in a Therapists. Dr. L'Abate explained that the saying “You only hurt the one you love" is true, because if we did not care about someone we would not be hurt by their actions. of love te Opposihate - _. is not a bul indifference "The opposite of love is not hate," he said. If you have hate you still care because you have an emotion. "The opposite of love is indifference,” he explained. He said that sometimes married couples will inevitably fight. "When they fight at least they still have emotion, but when they stop caring enough to fight, watch out,” he said. The couple explained to a large group at the conference that one of the most important, but one of the most difficult tasks in life, is to learn to be intimate. He defined in- timate as being able to express ones hurts and fears of being hurt. Dr. L’Abate separated “being physical" from “intimacy.” He said . that being intimate requires understanding and caring, but that sometimes people do terrible things like molest and beat on each other or even kill each other while being physical. "Being physical doesn't have all that much to do with being intimate," he added. He explained that couples who do not have intimacy have more physical ailments and psychomatic symptoms than couples who have learned how to really talk and understand each other. Page 3